What Every Therapist Needs To Know About Couple Therapy

Communication is an essential tool for improving or deteriorating any relationship. A good couple is one which has friendship in them because they can talk to each other anytime or on anything whenever they want to. Couples who have consensus of opinion, which is though very normal, sometimes lead to quarrels and disputes bringing distress in the relationship. Sometimes they’re easily sorted by both the couple but sometimes you need some outside help who can listen to the point of view of both, recognize each entity’s fault and expectation and be able to convey to each other in an optimistic manner.Couples therapy is essential in some cases and has given some amazing results for both.

Research and several observations have noticed that a good match between a client and a therapist could result in a better outcome in couples therapy. This is because if a patient or client is relaxed and open to his/her therapist will be able to express his/her inner feelings, problems and fears more openly. When a therapist is able to understand the problem of the patient, he could then be able to recommend any treatment or even diagnose the problem. Sometimes only a few sessions of conversations make the patient feel better, but sometimes medicine is also required to recover fully with some mindfulness therapy and suggested exercises. 

Therapies are something done by trustworthy and reliable sources, to gain maximum benefits for issues troubling you. But a right therapist must also know what he is going to address as a problem and how he/she can make things better in a smooth and comfortable manner. Couples therapy is a little different from regular therapies, in which you’ve to listen to both sides, analyze who is right or wrong and further try to convince both on something they don’t want to come on. So a right therapist must know some of the key points before performing any couples therapy.

DETERMINE THE PROBLEM BETWEEN THEM

Having difference in opinions on any aspect is a very common trait between two people, and yes they could be any, not specifically a couple but a student and teacher can argue on something, two friends, two brothers or sisters, in short anyone but if you observe a series of endless arguments especially in couples relationship with no result coming out and ending in small or major fights will make your relationship worse with time and you must take steps to improve it any cost. If a therapist doesn’t know the problem between the couple, how can he address their issue, prolonged sessions are often disappointing and people leave the therapies in between.

 MUST BE ABLE TO ENCOUNTER TRUST ISSUES

Trust is an important pillar on which any relationship is standing and if you smell a breach in this important pillar, it's an alarming sign that your relationship is in danger and you must do something, so that you feel secure. If trust is broken, it clearly brings insecurity, stress and doubts which are not at all good signs for any couple. This could be because of past events or change in the current behavior. Your sincerity is the key to success for your relationship, and if your partner is suspecting something, try to clear your side as quickly as possible as lingering these problems could deteriorate your issue badly. A reliable therapist can bring both of them near by resolving their trust issues in a positive way.

LEARN HOW MUCH PHYSICALLY INTIMATE THEY ARE

A healthy sexual intimacy for any relationship is essential to tick the romance quotient. Facing issues in this kind of relationship could cause frustration, unattended physical needs,loneliness, negative thoughts and much more. Couples therapy is a great way to address this problem in a safe and protective environment. Here you can speak your heart out without being judged or have a risk of your secret getting out. Instead you’ll find the best solutions to your problem as therapists are only there to help you. Many couples feel isolated and sometimes betrayed just because one of them is less active sexually. They suggest many tips and techniques that would help a better relationship and improve intimacy rate too.

MUST STRESS UPON ACTIVE LISTENING

If a person wants to reduce conflicts or resolve issues between each other, they must actively listen to each other without being judgemental or biased. Every person has his/her own style of talking, liking or disliking things, preferences and views on anything. If another partner critically condemns the other one, hate and arguments will surely arise, so avoid doing that. Instead, welcome others' opinions and try to find a positive aspect in it. Showing empathy and humble approach will bring an optimistic impact on your chatting session, making him/her feel acknowledged. This boosts confidence as an individual and also as a couple too.

Conclusion

If you’ve felt that you are growing apart, seek help from a therapist who's an expert in couples therapy. A right therapist can not only help you improve your relationship but also can suggest you some mindfulness therapy that can improve your mental health as well.