Meir Ezra, Who Do You Blame?

Meir Ezra, No one wins the blame game.

For example, you make a mistake or something goes wrong. So you blame someone or something.

"I crashed the car because you played the radio too loud!"

"It's not my fault the soup is too salty! It's your recipe."

"If we had a newer computer, I would do better in school."

Blame is frequently used to explain poor job performance.

"My boss is such a jerk, I can't get my work done."

"I closed my painting shop and went bankrupt because of the economy."

"You don't pay me enough to be nice to EVERY customer."

Blame is also used for personal problems.

"I'm depressed because of the tragedies in the news."

"I can't be faithful to my wife because I have a chemical imbalance."

"I can't stop smoking because my father used to spank me."

Why You Can't Win the Blame Game

When you blame someone or something else, you actually make yourself weak and ineffective. You make yourself "at effect" instead of being "at cause" of the situation. You give power to the person or thing you blame.

"Blaming something else makes that something else cause; and as that cause takes on power, the individual in the same act loses control and becomes effect." -- L. Ron Hubbard