We Still Don't Trust You




As children, we're taught to believe that adults are the ones who know best. They hold the power, the knowledge, and the responsibility to guide us through the ups and downs of life. But what happens when that trust is broken? When the adults in our lives fail us, let us down, or even betray us?

For many of us, the scars of childhood trauma run deep. The wounds inflicted by those we should have been able to trust can leave us feeling isolated, insecure, and unable to form healthy relationships. We may find ourselves constantly on guard, expecting the worst from others, and struggling to trust even the most well-intentioned people.

The impact of broken trust can be far-reaching. It can affect our mental health, our physical health, and our ability to function in society. Studies have shown that people who have experienced childhood trauma are more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, and PTSD. They are also more likely to engage in risky behaviors, such as substance abuse and self-harm.

So what can we do if we find ourselves struggling to trust after childhood trauma? The first step is to acknowledge the pain that you've experienced. Allow yourself to feel the anger, the sadness, and the fear. It's important to remember that you are not alone. Millions of people have experienced similar traumas, and there is help available.

Once you've acknowledged your pain, you can begin to work on rebuilding trust. This is not an easy task, but it is possible. With time, patience, and the right support, you can learn to trust again.

Here are some tips for rebuilding trust after childhood trauma:

  • Start small. Don't try to trust everyone all at once. Start by trusting a few people you know well and who have proven themselves to be trustworthy.
  • Take your time. Building trust takes time. Don't expect to trust someone overnight. Give yourself time to get to know them and to see that they are consistent in their words and actions.
  • Be patient. There will be setbacks along the way. Don't get discouraged if you find yourself struggling to trust someone. Just keep working at it, and eventually, you will rebuild your trust.
  • Don't give up. Rebuilding trust is not easy, but it is possible. With time, patience, and the right support, you can learn to trust again.

Rebuilding trust after childhood trauma is a journey. There will be ups and downs along the way, but it is possible to heal from the pain of the past and to build a fulfilling life for yourself.